What brings the Dragon Energy and Tiger Energy pleasure?
What brings the Dragon Energy and Tiger Energy pleasure?Dragons and Tigers are most distinguishable in three areas:
· What motivates them
· Where they place their priorities
· What brings them pleasure
Understanding these differences is necessary to creating a foundation for greater Polarity and fulfillment in a relationship. Let me explain.
Pleasure: Challenge vs. Connection
When it comes to experiencing pleasure, joy, and fun, the Dragon and the Tiger are light-years apart.
The Dragon derives pleasure from challenge and competition. Winning a challenge is like a mission-in-a-box for the Dragon. The idea of putting it all on the line is exhilarating and profoundly pleasurable. This desire for competition is why so many Dragons enjoy watching or participating in some form of sport. Sports are all about achieving freedom—breaking free of your opponent’s tackle, succeeding at your mission to score, crossing a finish line first, or even beating a personal best in CrossFit. Playing the stock market, finishing a crossword, and collecting wine or figurines are other types of challenges that Dragons may find enjoyable.
Dragons enjoy challenge and competition so much that if they can’t participate, they will try to experience it on TV, in a stadium, or through a simulation like a video game. You may even be surprised to find a Dragon enjoying an episode of The Bachelor—which, while it involves relationships, drama, and romance, is also a game with a clear mission and a winner.
In fact, a Tiger and a Dragon may watch The Bachelor together, but they are watching for different reasons. The Dragon is watching for the competition, while the Tiger is watching for the connection—specifically to feel the connection.
Tigers find immense pleasure in feeling a connection, and that feeling is best experienced through the senses. Activities like dance, yoga, meditation, swimming, and hiking all give the Tiger opportunities to connect with their mind, body, and nature. Even something as simple as a bunch of flowers on the dining room table can help a Tiger enjoy the connection with the beauty of the world. Of course, the ultimate connection for a Tiger involves other people. Tigers love connecting with fellow Tigers and sharing their passions like their food, plants, partners, pets, or children. Plus, sharing common interests helps the Tiger to feel connected with the world around them. The more sensory these interests are, the better.
While the polarity of pleasure can play out in many different ways, the way Dragons and Tigers differ in their approach to sex is one of the most obvious. For the Dragon, having sex or masturbating is just another challenge with a very clear purpose—to be free of their overwhelming sense of desire. The Dragon will comfortably use pornographic material to assist, without craving any emotional attachment to the material itself. And while variety is nice, Dragons like to be efficient, so if something has worked with their sexual partner (or themselves) once, they will likely use it again and again to ensure the efficient and successful completion of the challenge. Dragons also tend to want to be in control of the mission to ensure it is successful, so they may be more active and dominating in the bedroom.
For the Tiger, sexual intimacy is an extension of their desire for connection and to be seen and loved—so seduction is important. Tigers will likely want to prepare for sex in advance, activating their senses via seductive clothing and grooming. When they feel attractive and desirable, the Tiger can relax and enjoy the experience. If the Tiger feels like they are just another tool assisting the Dragon to complete their challenge, they will not be deeply fulfilled by the experience and may even regret or resent their sexual encounter. Tigers ultimately see sex as an opportunity for intimacy and achieving a deeper connection with their partner; they want to use sex as a way of opening to the Dragon Energy and welcoming the Dragon into their heart.