If you’ve been in a long-term marriage, you know how couples can go from soulmates to stalemates. Maybe one or both of you have strayed, or you’ve decided to settle for life without passion because, you tell yourself, it beats being alone and dating sucks, especially in a world gone viral. If you’re single, you might be tired of the swiping, ghosting, and matches that fail to spark. Whatever your relationship status, I want to share the secret sauce I discovered after a personal crisis sent me reeling into a vortex of self-examination.