Tiger Time
Filling the open Feminine (Tiger) heart with enough pleasure and love is like filling a sandcastle moat with water at the beach—it’s a constant and endless work in progress. And while you can certainly do it alone, that’s a lot of work, and it can be a little lonely. It’s OK to recruit help. After all, Tiger Energy grows strong through connection.
When you’re looking for help filling up with pleasure, the Dragons (Masculine) in your life can certainly lend a hand, but keep in mind that Dragons aren’t energized by the same things you are. Don’t be surprised if your Dragon runs out of puff long before your open heart is full.
In the same way that Dragon Energy grows strong by spending time with other Dragons, Tiger Energy is expanded by spending time feeling with other Tigers. So consciously spend time with your Tiger friends, your Tiger family members (at least the ones you get along with), your Tiger children, your Tiger community—whoever it is, wherever it is, find those Tigers that bring you pleasure, and prioritize your time with them. If your Dragon partner protests your time away, explain what you are doing, and they will likely be happy that you are prioritizing your pleasure. (Remember, they “just want you to be happy.”)
It isn’t always easy to find Tiger Time, and every Tiger feels pleasure differently, but don’t let that be an excuse. I live in Florida, but my best Tiger friends live in England and Australia. My London-based bestie has some anxiety/control issues that stop her from answering the phone, so we have to connect via text, email, or WhatsApp. Instead of controlling her quirks, I have learned to embrace and love them. Some mornings I will wake up to seventy-two WhatsApp messages and will laugh out loud at her wildness as she writes from topic to topic in an untethered stream of consciousness. Another Tiger friend in Australia has two toddler boys, so she barely has a moment free, let alone a spare hand to write a text. We connect via voice recordings. On our daily walks, we record long-winded, unfiltered voice messages and send them off to each other. We each listen when we have a spare moment with no pressure to respond. Each one is a strand of connection that pulls us closer and fills our hearts with love. Then, of course, there’s my Mom, who insists we always use FaceTime Video (even if she is in a crowded, noisy restaurant). She doesn’t care if my hair is a mess, my house is a mess, my life is a mess—she just wants to see my face and share in my life.
In the end, when you let go, open your heart and fill it with pleasure and love, your light will shine so bright that people will be drawn to you like a beacon in the night.