For the majority of people, when you strip back the conditioned layers to finally reveal your Dominant Energy, you will likely notice that you and your partner are already polarized. We naturally gravitate toward our opposite energy—it’s the Law of Polarity in action.

You may know immediately at the core of your being that you are a Dominant Dragon, motivated by freedom, driven with clarity, and enthralled by a challenge.

Similarly, you might immediately recognize yourself as a Dominant Tiger, deeply motivated by love and a desire to be seen and feel connected.

But it’s not always that straightforward.

Our energy is fluid, it's moving all the time, and we are all complex beings. For the purposes of this post, however, I am intentionally oversimplifying our very complex and fluid energy, because to create polarity we need someone in the relationship to be a Dragon and someone needs to be a Tiger, even if just for a few hours or a few days. Only then can you create space and create polarity.

The good news is that most couples are naturally opposed. The bad news is that we tend to get so caught up in our busy energy-neutral lives that we don’t always get a chance to feel the space between us.

In this video I will cover the basics. What is the Law of Polarity? What can it do for you?

Within ourselves we have the ability to embody the Dragon as well as the Tiger. Yet at any given time, we tend to embody one energy more than the other. I call this embodiment our Dominant Energy.

We need counterbalance in our energy to function and succeed. If we were all Dragon, we would be overly aggressive and cutthroat, whereas if we were all Tiger, we would be uncontrollably wild and unhinged. It’s the balance of both energies that ensures we can remain in harmony with the world and each other. According to Taoism, that balance follows a 70:30 ratio: 70% of our energy is embodied by either the Tiger or the Dragon.

Whatever our Dominant Energy is at any given time, it attracts our energetic opposite. Together with a polar opposite partner, we feel complete, whole, “one.”

Let me explain further.

Dragon and Tiger Energy couldn’t be more different when it comes to understanding how, when and why something is pleasurable.

Let’s talk about “pleasure”.

Dragons and Tigers do not have the same priorities in life. Understanding these differences is necessary to create a foundation for greater Polarity and fulfillment in a relationship. Let’s discuss our priorities…

Dragons and Tigers are most distinguishable in three areas: (1) What motivates them; (2) Where they place their priorities; and (3) What brings them pleasure

Understanding these differences is necessary to creating a foundation for greater Polarity and fulfillment in a relationship. Let me explain motivations first.

As we explore Polarity together in this blog and in my book, Feed the Tiger, Free the Dragon, you will notice that I have made a few tweaks to the traditional language you may have previously stumbled across. Polarity traditionally uses the terms “masculine” and “feminine” to describe the polarized sexual energies within us.

In this blog post I will discuss: Why I use the terms Tigers & Dragons instead of the traditional “Masculine & Feminine”. I will also outline how the Tiger and Dragon have different motivators, priorities and pleasure centers.

The Law of Polarity is a natural law (aka a Universal Law). Natural Laws are thought to be intrinsic, unchanging laws of our universe that ancient cultures have always been intuitively known.

According to the natural Law of Polarity, people with opposite sexual energy produce an attractive force between them, while people with the same energy produce a neutral or repulsive force. As the old saying goes, opposites attract. And the larger the energetic distance between two people, the greater the attraction.